Alzheimer's Disease and related disorders can change family
customs during the holidays. Changes also happen when illness
causes loss of energy and physical strength.
Older adults who experience losses still need loving contact with
the children in their lives, but some guidelines can help during
holiday visits.
Prepare children and teens for ways in which an illness has changed
their older relative, especially if they are visiting from a distance
and have not been together for some time.
Explain that Grandpa has an illness that may make him repeat the
same question, even after it has been answered. Advise children
to encourage their grandparent to talk about things the older
person finds interesting, to give the grandparent ample time to
say things, and not to dispute wrong information.
Although Grandma may love being around younger people, she may
have an illness or hearing loss that makes it difficult to keep
up with the conversation and activities. Everything that Grandma
does now takes more effort and may take a toll on patience.
The high spirits of youth can be exhilarating but also fatiguing.
Plan for breaks when children have activities away from the house,
and make sure that the older person has opportunity for normal
rest.
Be positive about what the grandparent will enjoy.
11/4/96
Colleen Jolly
Human Development & Family Studies
Iowa State University Extension
1086 Lebaron Hall
Iowa State University
Ames, IA 50011-4380